tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post1622166221861709700..comments2023-10-19T13:55:22.556+01:00Comments on my fascinating life: In On ItClaudiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09352341442556433375noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-23445932657665453982012-03-30T19:14:48.341+01:002012-03-30T19:14:48.341+01:00You two are unbearably cute.You two are unbearably cute.Claudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09352341442556433375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-74534678197053489012012-03-30T19:14:00.970+01:002012-03-30T19:14:00.970+01:00Oh, I'm really glad someone else can corrobora...Oh, I'm really glad someone else can corroborate! It's great isn't it?Claudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09352341442556433375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-17444935568435974222012-03-26T19:57:46.709+01:002012-03-26T19:57:46.709+01:00Actually, she hasn't said anything that has ma...Actually, she hasn't said anything that has made me roll my eyes. Ever. :-)Cory and Mollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11630337123915433469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-19238964963927463722012-03-21T19:11:13.300+00:002012-03-21T19:11:13.300+00:00Picked this up last year and tore through it in re...Picked this up last year and tore through it in record time. Then I sent it to my mother. Then asked her to send it to my MIL. Then asked her to send to my SIL. I hope to get it through the entire family by the time our son comes home. I think your analysis is spot on about the generosity and tone, too.Heatherhttp://thirdwaver.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-36047810011346508582012-03-20T15:52:10.426+00:002012-03-20T15:52:10.426+00:00Ah, Renee, of course!!! I haven't read this, b...Ah, Renee, of course!!! I haven't read this, but friends with non-adopted kids say it's really good. Such a good suggestion!!!Claudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09352341442556433375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-76792885223567801362012-03-20T15:42:25.135+00:002012-03-20T15:42:25.135+00:00I would try the in their own voices series. There ...I would try the in their own voices series. There is one for siblings.Reneehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03945822712734364028noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-75383009494005475102012-03-17T17:11:57.980+00:002012-03-17T17:11:57.980+00:00Hi Claudia I only just saw this! Thank you, that ...Hi Claudia I only just saw this! Thank you, that really means a lot. I do try, but I know I've said the wrong thing to her so many times that she's just in the eye-rolling stage now. <br />Amy xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-67929808944504601952012-03-15T23:12:41.753+00:002012-03-15T23:12:41.753+00:00I hope so too, Jen!!I hope so too, Jen!!Claudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09352341442556433375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-26409105134396763842012-03-15T22:33:03.143+00:002012-03-15T22:33:03.143+00:00Huh. That's an interesting question. To be hon...Huh. That's an interesting question. To be honest, I'm not really sure. It's got a lot of information that would probably be useful for siblings, but it's not really written 'to' that audience. So my gut feeling would be - I probably wouldn't give it to young teenagers, but would consider for older teenagers (after pre-reading for any particular points that you would need to be ready to discuss, obviously!)<br /><br />Gosh, can you tell I know very little about teenagers? <br /><br />This is a really interesting question. I do think this book could be a useful tool in your situation, but I really can't think of any book that is directly aimed at that audience. Can anyone else????Claudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09352341442556433375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-53410991181015023402012-03-15T19:03:15.501+00:002012-03-15T19:03:15.501+00:00Do you think it would be appropriate for teenage s...Do you think it would be appropriate for teenage siblings (who were not adopted)?kareydkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16411246173777986984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-64418927401740815252012-03-14T23:58:30.262+00:002012-03-14T23:58:30.262+00:00Oh, I have no idea if I am replying in the correct...Oh, I have no idea if I am replying in the correct spot, but have to chime in some how! I am a lurker, but have to thank you for this book recommend. Having had a LONG, HARD adoption journey, we have not felt the support from our family (and some friends). They thought we were nuts when we started, and several years later, they think we are insane. And frankly, I am pretty much a lunatic now, but what I have not achieved in making them ever understand is why we continue on. I will be ordering these books and sending out several copies. I hope that this can maybe help build that bridge of understand a little. Thanks again! JenTwo Little Birdshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16944953597844214330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-77413791465311170512012-03-14T21:27:13.452+00:002012-03-14T21:27:13.452+00:00YAY! My mother said the exact same thing to me aft...YAY! My mother said the exact same thing to me after bravely working her way through some of my adoption books - "there's nothing for grandparents". I'll definitely check this out, thanks for passing on the link.<br /><br />IreneEirinihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11462356104036309471noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-12606501439835945792012-03-14T17:41:49.084+00:002012-03-14T17:41:49.084+00:00I really hope you ike it - I thought it was great!...I really hope you ike it - I thought it was great! (Obviously!)Claudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09352341442556433375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-30020872096790269642012-03-14T17:41:19.369+00:002012-03-14T17:41:19.369+00:00bwah ha ha!bwah ha ha!Claudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09352341442556433375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-84884070939937280462012-03-14T17:40:50.713+00:002012-03-14T17:40:50.713+00:00Essie, I think you're absolutely right.Essie, I think you're absolutely right.Claudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09352341442556433375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-17643132679883071422012-03-14T17:34:37.844+00:002012-03-14T17:34:37.844+00:00Amy, when I read this book I was thinking about ho...Amy, when I read this book I was thinking about how much effort you put into researching adoption and for how long, so that you could support your sister. If all families were like you, there would be no market for this kind of literature!!!Claudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09352341442556433375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-2482373814568131792012-03-14T17:33:16.672+00:002012-03-14T17:33:16.672+00:00Oh Jess, I'm so sorry, that's awful!
When ...Oh Jess, I'm so sorry, that's awful!<br />When I said in my review that this book assumes the best of the people reading, I think that the target audience is definitely people who ARE well-meaning. It's a really great resource for people who want to do the right thing and dont' know how. It's probably not much help if the person concerned does not actually care about whether their attitude is one hundred different kinds of wrong. I'm so sorry you're not getting any support from your mother - that must be so hard. Same for you, tafel - that's incredible. Ugh.Claudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09352341442556433375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-30996531438470460072012-03-14T10:26:17.913+00:002012-03-14T10:26:17.913+00:00Thanks for your comment and that is EXACTLY what I...Thanks for your comment and that is EXACTLY what I'm counting on. It's so tiresome in the meantime though. Thankfully we live in different cities, so I don't have to hear about it all the time and I just prattle on with my progress updates and ignore her uncomfortable responses.Jesshttp://www.nevermindthedistance.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-38188867000612649342012-03-14T00:10:40.299+00:002012-03-14T00:10:40.299+00:00I'm ordering 7 billion copies- one for every h...I'm ordering 7 billion copies- one for every human...because even if you're not adopting you know someone who is adopting.The Lost Planetistahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16459092754901997729noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-2317590645336440292012-03-13T15:47:41.153+00:002012-03-13T15:47:41.153+00:00Perfect timing. I have a post brewing about my mot...Perfect timing. I have a post brewing about my mother visiting...DrSpousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07259337858075146058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-49327127786612207772012-03-13T15:17:07.217+00:002012-03-13T15:17:07.217+00:00Thank you so much for this, Claudia. I have someo...Thank you so much for this, Claudia. I have someone I want to share it with right away. Lots of love your way!Evelynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01800995892415893734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-70268342647507238172012-03-13T14:18:09.980+00:002012-03-13T14:18:09.980+00:00Oh, I'll have to check it out. Next on my lis...Oh, I'll have to check it out. Next on my list. Thanks for reviewing!Mollyhttp://corynmollyadoption.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-18638804425114646942012-03-13T13:44:11.315+00:002012-03-13T13:44:11.315+00:00@Jess - my mother went with "I guess if you w...@Jess - my mother went with "I guess if you want to screw up your life like that, that's YOUR business." I'm not sure if this book would have worked for her either, but it would have been worth a shot. Hang in there - based on my experience, once there is a *real* child in the picture, the most opposed of parents can become quite enthusiastic grandparents.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-39085407060002555692012-03-13T13:10:21.980+00:002012-03-13T13:10:21.980+00:00Thanks for this. I passed the info on to all my f...Thanks for this. I passed the info on to all my friends. :-)Casa Bicicletahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01877164617383384452noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-25353934566103698382012-03-13T11:48:24.563+00:002012-03-13T11:48:24.563+00:00Sigh.
This topic is HARD for me and I didn't...Sigh. <br /><br />This topic is HARD for me and I didn't realise how hard until I almost couldn't read this post, because it deals with...the HARD thing. My mother is being very difficult about my adoption application. Her classic quote when I told her of my plans, that had been flagged for a while after some unsuccessful fertility treatment, was "it's like you've thrown a brick through the window" to describe her shock and pain. She then went on to say every conceivable insensitive thing possible to someone who has announced they're adopting - you won't love the child because it's not yours, what if it turns into an axe murderer, adoption is only for old people, yada yada. I was looking around for good resources in situations such as this and the best I could do was buy 'Adoption is a Family Affair!' with the extremely daggy cover photo (and that exclamation mark can't go by without comment). Well, Mum has now 'lost' that book without reading it and has started praying I'll find a man - a preoccupation she didn't bother herself with when I was trying to conceive a child on my own. I'm not sure if there's any use in getting this book, but since it comes so highly recommended from a fave blogger, I'll give it a go and keep persisting with Mum. Did I say SIGH already?!Jesshttp://www.nevermindthedistance.comnoreply@blogger.com