tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post5369981205921112260..comments2023-10-19T13:55:22.556+01:00Comments on my fascinating life: Welcome to the ClubClaudiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09352341442556433375noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-13385651096081104012011-07-17T02:04:42.760+01:002011-07-17T02:04:42.760+01:00Thank you for saying this out loud.Thank you for saying this out loud.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-84766581959025053772010-02-22T16:45:50.365+00:002010-02-22T16:45:50.365+00:00There are good ones. But you have to pick them jus...There are good ones. But you have to pick them just as carefully as you picked IF support I think. :(Barbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16067045642285877560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-84662534696872822032010-01-27T16:59:08.725+00:002010-01-27T16:59:08.725+00:00Great post - I especially liked the autocrat part....Great post - I especially liked the autocrat part. So very true. It's taken me a while to figure out who are real mommy friends and who are not, but the real ones do make all the difference in the world! Good luck with your parenting journey!Cassihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02367914074900130522noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-88963695401034513172010-01-07T14:07:13.159+00:002010-01-07T14:07:13.159+00:00love this and you are so right on about it all!love this and you are so right on about it all!Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06793443841216420275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-73045909258376684412010-01-05T23:42:21.269+00:002010-01-05T23:42:21.269+00:00Oh my goodness. This is classic. You should write ...Oh my goodness. This is classic. You should write a column. Seriously. I can't wait to show this to my husband when he gets home. You're like the Ellen Degeneres of adoption. :) Keep it up! Can hardly wait to read your coming blogs!Katrinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12516867636880605593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-19731719731463972752010-01-02T03:04:55.380+00:002010-01-02T03:04:55.380+00:00I hear you! We haven't even picked
our 8 month...I hear you! We haven't even picked<br />our 8 month old daughter up from Ethiopia yet and we are already getting stupid advice! I haven't done adoption mother groups either, so I'm not sure if they are the same, but I wouldn't think so. I have been getting really good at ignoring people (just ask my husband!) By the way, your children are absolutely beautiful!<br />~AnneAnniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16890145434015694326noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-1940174686273255772010-01-01T23:01:59.335+00:002010-01-01T23:01:59.335+00:00Ugh, C, that does not sound like a good environmen...Ugh, C, that does not sound like a good environment at all. I hope you are able to find a group that is supportive like the women in the AIL blogosphere. You so deserve better, dear.<br /><br />Love the pics of your babies a couple posts back. They are just too cute.Lost in Spacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07027117135940864685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-32172596595413478542010-01-01T17:41:05.795+00:002010-01-01T17:41:05.795+00:00I'll probably get the worst mommy that ever li...I'll probably get the worst mommy that ever lived award because I all of these new (invented) rules about babies drive me insane!Sarah @ Cozy.Cottage.Cute.https://www.blogger.com/profile/03962067954413284646noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-50044637060380822022009-12-31T17:33:10.915+00:002009-12-31T17:33:10.915+00:00You are right! And I hear you!
I have a couple...You are right! And I hear you! <br /><br />I have a couple mommy friends with whom I can really commiserate. If it wasn't for their perverse sense of humor I do not know how I would make it through. They totally get when I say that my son drives me completely and totally mad at times.Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18024229630052292112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-60945012769789372892009-12-31T17:14:07.654+00:002009-12-31T17:14:07.654+00:00A round of applause from Boston! I LOVE this!! I...A round of applause from Boston! I LOVE this!! I feel like there is so much of this. I feel that in the adoption community, it extends to how Ethiopian you are raising your child, or how you handle the birth story, or whether or not you used the right agency. BLECH! I am going to link to this post because I love it SO much! Kudos for articulating this so beautifully!Colleen and JF Bertrandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17678580824901740199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-8566581376599251542009-12-31T03:28:57.043+00:002009-12-31T03:28:57.043+00:00I will invite you once again to move to Oregon. A...I will invite you once again to move to Oregon. At least in my town, nobody touches a pregnant woman's stomach, mothers are actually and truly supportive of each other and in my experience you have to ask for mothering advice before people offer it to you.<br />Although, I will admit, as Lori said, the topics of conversation are often incredibly mundane but at least they are supportive and mundane.<br />KerryKerryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13670020044450608740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-41459401858210645812009-12-31T03:03:31.124+00:002009-12-31T03:03:31.124+00:00I'm with Rebecca. I love you. You sound soooo...I'm with Rebecca. I love you. You sound soooo like my friend Fiona.<br /><br />And yes. You had it right the first time... BORING!! It's boring because you are a grown adult who is sitting in on a juvenile conversation. I hear it all the time.. it feels like JR. High all over again. <br /><br />You rockSha Zam-https://www.blogger.com/profile/11705917883828933628noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-16001064010940671922009-12-31T02:34:15.822+00:002009-12-31T02:34:15.822+00:00Amen sister. You figured it out waaaaaaaaay befor...Amen sister. You figured it out waaaaaaaaay before I did.<br />LeighCasa Bicicletahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06853253312120595615noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-14087347798290526492009-12-31T01:25:41.987+00:002009-12-31T01:25:41.987+00:00So funny. I remember sitting in a coffeeshop with ...So funny. I remember sitting in a coffeeshop with Abe when he was a little baby and listening to the conversation of two moms across from me, and just feeling bored to tears. It was exactly as you described. Exactly. I kept wanting to interject, "What book are you guys reading now? What was the last movie you saw? What is your life outside of your child's developmental milestones?"<br />And then I felt guilty for being judgmental too. But really: I can see talking about this stuff for a half hour or so, but for the entire coffee? Really?Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15553145979283388517noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-8464264543517052702009-12-31T00:41:57.248+00:002009-12-31T00:41:57.248+00:00I love your blog and your words and your ability t...I love your blog and your words and your ability to make me laugh with your accounts of things. You just rock.<br /><br />I'm not in the club yet, and I'm glad you're giving me the heads up...but I have always kind of witnessed that backhanded compliment thing and wonder why we're so hard on each other?<br /><br />PS Do you have an email?DAVshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16759565504954172751noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-11257179173079385932009-12-30T22:29:17.139+00:002009-12-30T22:29:17.139+00:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Ivo Serenthàhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17814357487372924176noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-78033586689254363982009-12-30T22:26:22.008+00:002009-12-30T22:26:22.008+00:00Ack. Please come here. And I think Shelby is right...Ack. Please come here. And I think Shelby is right-Adoptive Moms group. Totally different I think, at least in my experience.Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13790711152511868938noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-51973672696999104552009-12-30T21:44:52.798+00:002009-12-30T21:44:52.798+00:00I'm sorry you had to deal with this! I am abso...I'm sorry you had to deal with this! I am absolutely dreading this and I suspected this was how it will be for me. It's really sad, though, because I have two Mother's groups I'm about to join as I am in desperate need of the companionship (and not assvice or competition) of those in my shoes-getting up at the butt crack of dawn to 'feed me!!' screams and now considering brushing my teeth to be a luxury. You know how it is and I'm sure you were looking for the same. <br /><br />I'm wondering if you have considered or know of any adoptive parent groups and if those might be any different. Perhaps I'm biased or even naive but I suspect women parenting after IF might not play those games? It might be worth a shot...<br /><br />By the way, your little ones are absolutely beyond beautiful. Those doe eyes are to die for!Shelbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06085283320884411888noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-30179793756836196572009-12-30T20:04:22.136+00:002009-12-30T20:04:22.136+00:00thank you for this post... because I am soooo temp...thank you for this post... because I am soooo tempted to be envious of the Mama Club some days. Now I can think of this post and ward off those jealous thoughts.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09496203933580303223noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-86790012976257970172009-12-30T18:01:44.829+00:002009-12-30T18:01:44.829+00:00If you could see me right now you would see that I...If you could see me right now you would see that I am reaching through the internet to give you a high five. This post rocks.<br /><br />I keep getting mommy advice on how to raise my child, how to feed him, how to take care of his hair, how to get him to sleep better...and my kid isn't even home yet!!! <br /><br />I'd like to start a new club and invite you to be the president. :)<br /><br />bekaMore Dorrshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06365599846288104152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-35242392448236742472009-12-30T17:17:03.273+00:002009-12-30T17:17:03.273+00:00oh my! You are sooooo right. I'm a bit slower ...oh my! You are sooooo right. I'm a bit slower than you because I've only just figured it out.<br /><br />you're right though about the one upmanship and I for one am DONE with it. I wrote about that one friend on my blog. well... I've decided I'm just going to talk about her to her, not about the babies because mine are apparently sooo behind in everything AND they're 8 weeks ahead.<br /><br />I have a post in drafts somewhere because I've been wanting to write about the competition thing. Now I don't - I can just link to your fabulous post.Marcia (123 blog)https://www.blogger.com/profile/15581613927187600748noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-2736655070166268172009-12-30T16:31:07.732+00:002009-12-30T16:31:07.732+00:00can i just say that i love you?!?! and can i also ...can i just say that i love you?!?! and can i also say ... i think we have a different club for better or worse, i think for much better, we're each other's club ... but not a club, an actual listen to it all, feel it all, step back and reflect, produce true emotional connections albeit through networks and routers, but the real ... this is what i need, deal!!!<br /><br />i love your babies. i think they are so adorable i can hardly stand it. and you are beyond fabulous. i hope that i would gain entry into your kingdom. for tea and digestives and holy shit let's deal with this stuff and be free to vent sans judgment. yep, i think our kingdoms have a superb alliance.Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02645745686195157198noreply@blogger.com