tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post411798451662965636..comments2023-10-19T13:55:22.556+01:00Comments on my fascinating life: Are You There, Parapet? It's Me, Head.Claudiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09352341442556433375noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-86983705530794260782012-08-16T06:02:12.878+01:002012-08-16T06:02:12.878+01:00Same comment as Sharon. Felt like I had to go over...Same comment as Sharon. Felt like I had to go over the top with information to other ET adoption folks justifying the whole damn thing. Hard to do that and not sound like a brat on a high horse. I think I've botched it a few times... scooping it uphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08801475653537826888noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-52754257499951453092012-08-15T20:02:20.389+01:002012-08-15T20:02:20.389+01:00SO SO SO close now Kelly!SO SO SO close now Kelly!Claudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09352341442556433375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-5556012571539793542012-08-15T19:10:15.072+01:002012-08-15T19:10:15.072+01:00I'm with these people. I've been looking f...I'm with these people. I've been looking for a reason to drink champagne, let me know TLP. ;)hotflawedmamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04457871832437767637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-7638351911556100862012-08-13T21:46:11.238+01:002012-08-13T21:46:11.238+01:00Hang in there, Kelly. You're almost there!Hang in there, Kelly. You're almost there!Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13468881865772390593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-22989391858513056392012-08-13T18:10:55.416+01:002012-08-13T18:10:55.416+01:00Thank you for putting to words the thoughts that h...Thank you for putting to words the thoughts that have been swirling around in my head about this. Very well said!The Bustershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04997732379617645016noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-34277200373604027582012-08-13T16:05:34.742+01:002012-08-13T16:05:34.742+01:00This is such a well written post, and always thoug...This is such a well written post, and always thought provoking. <br />I just have such mixed emotions about all of this, all the time. My heart hurts over the ways adoptions can go so wrong. I am so glad there is more oversight, there really can never be enough when you think of the potential problems that can happen. Ugh, ugh, ugh.<br /><br />I need to send you an email...hopefully will find time to do that pronto (not that you need another thing clogging your inbox...:) )MyTwoLineshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11488860357456329714noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-7362107266446174632012-08-13T15:52:02.687+01:002012-08-13T15:52:02.687+01:00I really appreciate this post. We started our Ethi...I really appreciate this post. We started our Ethiopian adoption in 2009... and we're still working on it now (awaiting US Embassy clearance). It was a very different world back then and as time has progressed there have been so many changes in the program (for the better, in my opinion) and there has been a tremendous shift in the amount of support/camaraderie I feel from/with others. It's frustrating and disheartening. So, thanks for this. Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13533605951512372935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-15330279542487735852012-08-13T13:52:54.478+01:002012-08-13T13:52:54.478+01:00you're welcome.you're welcome. Claudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09352341442556433375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-54769285344897032872012-08-13T13:52:27.230+01:002012-08-13T13:52:27.230+01:00That's an interesting wrinkle, Sharon - about ...That's an interesting wrinkle, Sharon - about how people want to judge for themselves whether an adoption is ethical or not. I know I can be guilty of that sometimes!!! It's really hard to know where the line is between wisdom / discernment / accountability and nosiness / gossip / judgmentalism. More food for thought, thanks!Claudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09352341442556433375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-80166526822149041732012-08-13T13:50:00.164+01:002012-08-13T13:50:00.164+01:00I'm glad, H.I'm glad, H. Claudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09352341442556433375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-29056827050397521382012-08-13T13:49:39.779+01:002012-08-13T13:49:39.779+01:00Yes, M, that, exactly! This bit of waiting is SO t...Yes, M, that, exactly! This bit of waiting is SO tough. You need all the support you can get! Claudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09352341442556433375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-49965330772423615462012-08-13T13:36:35.169+01:002012-08-13T13:36:35.169+01:00I felt a bit that way during our second adoption (...I felt a bit that way during our second adoption (completed earlier this year). We waited many months to announce it because we were concerned about the backlash, of which we received very little, thankfully. The adoption community can be judgmental and harsh. People that had previously adopted were very curious about our son's situation and wanted to know all of the details (medical, familial, etc. which we were unwilling to share) of why he was a waiting child. It seemed like they thought if we gave them his information, they would then be able to "judge" for themselves whether it was ethical or not. A hard spot to be in when you're looking for support.<br />You have written this so very well. I agree...move forward slowly and with your eyes WIDE open.Sharonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08074200111691759654noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-42152577997258710412012-08-13T13:18:02.650+01:002012-08-13T13:18:02.650+01:00I hate that you feel this way, Lost Planetista. T...I hate that you feel this way, Lost Planetista. That makes me so very sad. Please know that this reader is NEVER clicking my tongue or judging. Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13468881865772390593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-28550992790197045842012-08-13T13:18:01.276+01:002012-08-13T13:18:01.276+01:00Thank you so much! It is sooo very different from ...Thank you so much! It is sooo very different from 2008, you're absolutely right. It was refreshing to wake up to this little bit of encouragement---specifically encouragement that didn't come from someone actively adopting. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-20687372080400058992012-08-13T12:23:34.361+01:002012-08-13T12:23:34.361+01:00I was thinking about this the other day- how diffe...I was thinking about this the other day- how different the wait is this time around. Last time, for one, there were so many other people waiting. Even though waiting sucks no matter what, it helped to have that camaraderie. This time it's totally different. I try not to ever blog about it because I know that when people read it they will just click their tongues and judge the fact that we're adopting from ET again. The Lost Planetistahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16459092754901997729noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-60144542350722684472012-08-13T10:19:18.277+01:002012-08-13T10:19:18.277+01:00Great post, c! I couldnĀ“t agree more!Great post, c! I couldnĀ“t agree more!Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02263413990459476622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-6259472469015439032012-08-13T00:39:06.100+01:002012-08-13T00:39:06.100+01:00Thank you!Thank you!brigettejoshengelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13403828343516605462noreply@blogger.com