tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post4017576461214271230..comments2023-10-19T13:55:22.556+01:00Comments on my fascinating life: Mother's MilkClaudiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09352341442556433375noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-64427698013861066012010-10-23T06:11:48.932+01:002010-10-23T06:11:48.932+01:00As an adoptee, I cannot tell you how happy I was t...As an adoptee, I cannot tell you how happy I was to read this post. <br /> <br />In addition to being an adoptee, I breastfed all three of my children, and was a lactation consultant for LLL. <br /> <br />In my opinion, (and almost every adult adoptee I know) adoptive mothers who breastfeed their adopted children are delusional. <br /> <br />A mother's milk is produced for her OWN baby, not a stranger's baby. A woman who has not given birth to her own child will never be able to produce enough milk on her own, or via artificial hormones/stimulation to sustain a child. <br /> <br />There is NOTHING wrong with formula fed babies. <br /> <br />We all bond with our adoptive parents eventually, there is no need for adoptive mothers to do this. It borders on child abuse, in my opinion. NOT in a sexual way, but in a psychological way. <br /> <br />Thank you, thank you, thank you.Real Daughterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16361127479878590761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-91911334999830710302010-08-25T01:36:26.553+01:002010-08-25T01:36:26.553+01:00Wow. You are SO right on. I couldn't breastf...Wow. You are SO right on. I couldn't breastfeed my daughter and I felt like a total failure (at first) and people would try to guilt trip me all the time. As time went on, I realized that it was so VERY o.k., more than o.k., it was wonderful. My husband got to share the bonding/feeding times and they created a wonderful relationship from very early on (and I got to sleep an extra 10 min. from time to time). She (my daughter) never ONCE got sick her first year+ of life (debunking the breast milk will keep her healthier myth) and even now, she has colds from time to time, but really, is very healthy. And this little 3 year old is smart and funny and totally and completely THRIVING. So there! Formula rocks! That's what I have to say! :)Bridgethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03324207209798382936noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-90305621501395809252010-02-21T00:34:43.755+00:002010-02-21T00:34:43.755+00:00AMEN! just struggled through some very similar iss...AMEN! just struggled through some very similar issues and was directed here. AMEN on the sleep post too! :)Barbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16067045642285877560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-13549432988671771222010-01-22T03:47:49.028+00:002010-01-22T03:47:49.028+00:00Love this post, C. I plan to mark it for a good (...Love this post, C. I plan to mark it for a good (hopeful) future reference. Thanks for doing all the research and for sharing so openly how you reached a beautiful resolution. Love seeing your little cutie pies!Lost in Spacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07027117135940864685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-34875087303781618042010-01-21T09:34:37.354+00:002010-01-21T09:34:37.354+00:00This is a brilliant post. As a PAP who'd like ...This is a brilliant post. As a PAP who'd like to breastfeed I wrestle this over in my head again and again. And like you, my research on formula has taught me only that it's the devils milk. It's so frustrating when you know the people who want to do their best for their kids are the ones who can't get the information they need. I assure you, my cousin who went straight to formula so she didn't need to ration her cigarettes and bourbon anymore really wasn't interested in educating herself about the right type of formula for her kid. I think it's great that people like her are bombarded with messages about laying off the booze and giving breastfeeding a shot, but there really needs to be some information for when formula is the best decision for the family.SassyCupcakeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06093736219562358428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-77789628891622219382010-01-21T01:35:41.204+00:002010-01-21T01:35:41.204+00:00I've been on both sides. My two adoptive chil...I've been on both sides. My two adoptive children were obviously bottle fed. I tried to find a formula that was the most similar to the one they were already on. My youngest was breastfed for 7+ months. Yes it is a great bond, but so is bottle feeding. There are definitely pros and cons to both, never have to mix formula or carry bottles, but have to find a private place to nurse etc. Plus my youngest has a food allergy, which may be to blame on my diet while pregnant and nursing. Who knows.Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08164289513143006410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-62942896012233625332010-01-21T01:30:42.426+00:002010-01-21T01:30:42.426+00:00I work in a Nutrition dept, and I caught flack for...I work in a Nutrition dept, and I caught flack for not breastfeeding. Talk about guilt! But when Jacob came home he was in the 5% for height and he is now in the 75%. Thank you formula! Your little ones are clearly THRIVING, not just growing. Good work, mama!Colleen and JF Bertrandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17678580824901740199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-7274021609693172702010-01-20T21:56:38.928+00:002010-01-20T21:56:38.928+00:00Thank you for putting so eloquently in words what ...Thank you for putting so eloquently in words what I feel about breast vs bottle feeding. I've felt guilty about not breastfeeding for many years, but have finally come to terms that it was not the best option for me. And I still have a very intelligent, normal, and healthy teenager. Formula did alright by her. :) <br /><br />...The babies, as always, are simply gorgeous!Danielahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10154015917510197388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-59783520844373131872010-01-20T05:21:11.767+00:002010-01-20T05:21:11.767+00:00This is a great post. Your twins look fantastic an...This is a great post. Your twins look fantastic and are obviously getting every single thing they need to thrive.Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13790711152511868938noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-3550800912550333842010-01-20T03:45:34.858+00:002010-01-20T03:45:34.858+00:00A beautiful post!
There's just not much more...A beautiful post! <br /><br />There's just not much more I can say, except thanks for sharing :)lastchanceivfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14139576318784337837noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-40960989790276400552010-01-20T02:01:50.611+00:002010-01-20T02:01:50.611+00:00This has to be one of my all time favorite posts! ...This has to be one of my all time favorite posts! Serious topic, one that used to take me from zero to sobbing too, but lots of things change when you embark on this amazing thing called adoption. Your twins are clearly thriving and they are ADORABLE to boot! Take that Dr. Sears!!Heidihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05855145567035760634noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-18402320768050932052010-01-20T01:33:48.983+00:002010-01-20T01:33:48.983+00:00Right on! You stopped by my blog when I wrote abou...Right on! You stopped by my blog when I wrote about this as well and I am still struggling with the guilt and messages in not breastfeeding my bio son. However, I am slowly but surely coming to a peace about it and no longer feel like I am feeding him fast food every time I put a bottle in his mouth. I know some absolutely brilliant and thriving kids and adults who were formula fed and after seeing them, I have to question the messages being sent by the anti-formula front. <br /><br />Obviously your kids are gorgeous, happy and well-fed. Isn't that what matters?Shelbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06085283320884411888noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-77085676473594538912010-01-20T01:03:30.356+00:002010-01-20T01:03:30.356+00:00I loved this line, "it should be less about t...I loved this line, "it should be less about the adjective and more about the verb." Bravo. AND you must be doing quite a number of things right. Your children look beautiful!Evelynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01800995892415893734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-17586757642483234092010-01-19T22:15:36.129+00:002010-01-19T22:15:36.129+00:00Oh Claudia, you are once again debunking the myths...Oh Claudia, you are once again debunking the myths of motherhood. I think the propaganda around breastfeeding was started so stupid people would get the message that breast feeding was a good thing. However, it has been taken so far, that intelligent people actually have a hard time finding needed information. I have a 463 page book called "The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding." I consulted this frequently during the first year of my daughter's life. It is only because I was sleep deprived that I didn't realize sooner, that the book could have been 462 pages shorter. The answer to each and every question I so painstakingly looked up was the same "Breast Feed More."<br />Your babies look so healthy and happy. Let's all be grateful for the science and research that went into developing the amazing formula that is allowing them to thrive.<br />KerryKerryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13670020044450608740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-74943893601227844212010-01-19T21:38:28.887+00:002010-01-19T21:38:28.887+00:00Just had to stop in and say your babies are gorgeo...Just had to stop in and say your babies are gorgeous and are obviously thriving on your love and care.<br />I could see possibly trying to induce lacation for one baby with tons of lead time (as in months), but that would be very hard in the first place. With twins, no way would I even try.Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15805727250430361509noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-52874166663231509332010-01-19T20:28:42.158+00:002010-01-19T20:28:42.158+00:00you go girl.you go girl.scooping it uphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08801475653537826888noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-32509578011540267862010-01-19T19:50:55.616+00:002010-01-19T19:50:55.616+00:00GREAT JOB! I think I might write about this one d...GREAT JOB! I think I might write about this one day. Along with posting a picture of curly rows. <br /><br />You always give me so many ideas. ;-)Gretchenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07425898963082396240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-65395225735037085562010-01-19T19:26:15.707+00:002010-01-19T19:26:15.707+00:00Great post! And glad your babies are thriving.
My...Great post! And glad your babies are thriving.<br /><br />My sister has two (bio) kids, she had all sorts of trouble breast-feeding the first one and ended up switching to formula pretty early on, the second one is fine with breast-feeding so that's what he's getting. Different things work for different babies, no matter where they come from.InventingLizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08882590455596544329noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-23220546005830555262010-01-19T18:16:37.019+00:002010-01-19T18:16:37.019+00:00Thank you! Thank you for this post! My husband a...Thank you! Thank you for this post! My husband and I are just beginning our adoption process and breastfeeding was a 'bitter pill' for me to swallow when we decided upon adoption. Like you, I've done the research on adoptive mother's breastfeeding, and like you we've decided it's not for us. That said, I've come to good terms with formula for our child and I was so thrilled to read your post and hear/see not only the progress your babies have made, but that you have made. Thanks for sharing!Hollihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00611642417388498809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-37969780209113506222010-01-19T17:31:57.754+00:002010-01-19T17:31:57.754+00:00I agree with you wholeheartedly. I have shameful ...I agree with you wholeheartedly. I have shameful feelings about not breastfeeding my bio son and not having toughed out the difficulties I was having with it. But I gave him all of his bottles and I agree with you, just because one is good doesn't mean the other is bad. And I happen to love the happy memory of him laughing with the bottle in his mouth and milk running down the sides of his face as he did so. A most complete and precious moment sans breast.Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18024229630052292112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-74456693519396706192010-01-19T17:28:06.160+00:002010-01-19T17:28:06.160+00:00Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this important...Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this important topic! (Trying to de-lurk, but not able to come up with anything more profound than this today).Joyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07387762027113894185noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-70429605169906385812010-01-19T17:06:05.432+00:002010-01-19T17:06:05.432+00:00did you ever find a good website for determining w...did you ever find a good website for determining which formula is the most nutrition-filled or for explaining the difference? I, too, have been stumped as I wander through the formula aisles...Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09496203933580303223noreply@blogger.com