tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post3453870565385414796..comments2023-10-19T13:55:22.556+01:00Comments on my fascinating life: So I Called The Adoption Agency AgainClaudiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09352341442556433375noreply@blogger.comBlogger54125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-30609947270734420472014-06-08T14:37:56.182+01:002014-06-08T14:37:56.182+01:00Me? I liked it much, much better when I thought th...Me? I liked it much, much better when I thought there was something wrong with ME or my parenting skills (vs my kid). <br /><br />Me? I take direction well and if my parenting needed to change, by golly, I'd be changing. I'd find myself the best [whatever expert] needed and be well on my way. Big sigh of relief and, well, the problem would be solved!<br /><br />My kid does not take direction well. Nobody can figure out what's wrong or how to fix it.<br /><br />Me (or my husband) being the problem would've been SO much easier to fix.Cayleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01734148340358452640noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-46898294537219018192014-05-07T09:21:35.718+01:002014-05-07T09:21:35.718+01:00Claudia
I just found your blog via a link to the F...Claudia<br />I just found your blog via a link to the Frozen post (and yes I so relate). I have a 7year old adopted from China and live here in the UK. Haven't had the issues you describe but I have a number of friends with kids with SPD (bio and adopted) who have very successfully used OT to help. My bio older daughter had OT for 2 years for a balance issue. It isn't covered (or for us wasn't) by private insurance so if you can get it on the NHS do try as it certainly isn't cheap. But it has worked really well for them. Very happy to chat or put you in touch with them.3cmumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13042940778098716275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-72782539053450933392014-05-07T00:31:14.922+01:002014-05-07T00:31:14.922+01:00I hope it went well, and I hope you have copped on...I hope it went well, and I hope you have copped on professionals to work with. So much of this sounds so familiar.barb_aloothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07990706676816248438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-85189785942787406392014-05-06T20:04:52.008+01:002014-05-06T20:04:52.008+01:00It must be really hard to fear that people might q...It must be really hard to fear that people might question the incredible love you have for your son just because you realize your family needs some help. Bravo to you for taking the difficult step of asking for help - that was surely not easy for you. I am thinking about all of you and hoping you find some helpful guidance soon.Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13533605951512372935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-85373858240254929452014-05-06T06:32:41.632+01:002014-05-06T06:32:41.632+01:00If calling Elvie "that baby" is a proble...If calling Elvie "that baby" is a problem, then I am in trouble. It's my code phrase for when she's gotten into mischief and I expect Jarod to take responsibility for her actions. Perhaps Blue picked it up from me. Yes, I think you should just blame me.Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09098391747911095350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-50407482862056089482014-05-05T21:14:42.578+01:002014-05-05T21:14:42.578+01:00Another new commenter - my ds, adopted at 11 mos f...Another new commenter - my ds, adopted at 11 mos from an orphanage in Cambodia, went through a similar pattern of tantrums, velcro-sticking-to-me, and running in circles around me (almost herding). It took me a few months to figure out that it all started after he found my husband passed out on the floor one morning (high fever, he's fine). There was something in his 3 year old brain that clicked - his past loss, and now the potential for new loss... oh boy, it was a rough patch. Of course, I bring this up because of the medical issues in your house and the timing of this post.<br /><br />I hope your meeting is fruitful.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12065554960394092789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-3239355875086829002014-05-05T18:38:53.434+01:002014-05-05T18:38:53.434+01:00they were going to umbrella his diagnosis as autis...they were going to umbrella his diagnosis as autism. Which he is clearly not. Sigh. I'm hoping your appointment goes/went well. It's really a tiring road. Kudos to you for calling your adoption agency. We've just been working with our social worker and our doctors. Trying so very hard to fight bitterness. Losing some of the time. Winning a smidgen, now and then. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-35077716146723621052014-05-05T03:52:21.020+01:002014-05-05T03:52:21.020+01:00Claudia I've followed your blog for a while an...Claudia I've followed your blog for a while and never commented. Our son was adopted at 13 months from Haiti (post-earthquake 2010) and we had crazy issues for a couple of years. After referrals here and referrals there we finally got a referral to Pediatric Assessment Services at our local Rehab hospital and finally a diagnosis...our son has Autism Spectrum Disorder!! Wow...it was on one had hard to hear that our son has a disability, however on the other hand we were thanking God that finally we had some answers and explanation for the whirlwind we had been living. Now that we have a diagnosis, we have support in working with his special needs and an understanding of why he does some of the behaviours that we didn't understand before. So good luck to you and your sweet boy and I hope you are able to find the answers you need so that you can move forward as a family. All the best! HeidiAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-71988700856735295982014-05-04T21:08:50.881+01:002014-05-04T21:08:50.881+01:00Oh H, that sounds so hard. "See what you thin...Oh H, that sounds so hard. "See what you think?" Uhhhhh... is that one of those questions that isn't really a question? Thinking of you, H. Please let us know what is happening. Claudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09352341442556433375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-75059240992322448822014-05-04T21:08:01.029+01:002014-05-04T21:08:01.029+01:00...and then a year goes by and the problem isn'......and then a year goes by and the problem isn't any better (but you still wonder if it's really a problem they'll just outgrow and maybe you shouldn't be worrying so much about it?)<br /><br />YES YES YES! THAT!Claudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09352341442556433375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-91488349529832022252014-05-04T21:07:30.651+01:002014-05-04T21:07:30.651+01:00Are you saying angels DON'T sing for you? Beca...Are you saying angels DON'T sing for you? Because gosh, every time I make another pot of pasta I'm hearing the heavenly choir. Or maybe that's just the sleep deprivation. <br />Claudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09352341442556433375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-57910101823503107002014-05-04T21:04:26.723+01:002014-05-04T21:04:26.723+01:00Thank you Hillary!Thank you Hillary!Claudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09352341442556433375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-84049375786503178142014-05-04T21:04:09.982+01:002014-05-04T21:04:09.982+01:00Do you know I still haven't read my novel yet?...Do you know I still haven't read my novel yet? My Dad has read it when he was recovering from surgery but I haven't. May 10 is going to be the big day! When I've got the initial issues sorted out (eg, apparently I've given two people the same name, which was dumb) I would love for you to read it and tell me how to fix all the inevitable plot holes! Claudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09352341442556433375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-42725371500515688632014-05-04T21:02:50.135+01:002014-05-04T21:02:50.135+01:00Thank you so much. Thank you so much. Claudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09352341442556433375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-71190058148893806482014-05-04T21:02:36.459+01:002014-05-04T21:02:36.459+01:00that's what I'm hoping!!that's what I'm hoping!!Claudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09352341442556433375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-71302490521261671132014-05-04T21:02:19.099+01:002014-05-04T21:02:19.099+01:00Oh no, that DID sound empathetic, which is even be...Oh no, that DID sound empathetic, which is even better than sympathetic. I'm so sorry that you guys haven't been able to get any help. I've heard so many different stories about who is able to get SPD support and who is not - it seems to vary WILDLY by where you live, who your Dr is, etc. I'm so frustrated for you that your people weren't willing to at least give you some kind of support, even if they had to 'umbrella' the diagnosis under something else. I can hear your frustration in your words. Claudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09352341442556433375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-90654338360471402692014-05-04T21:00:23.795+01:002014-05-04T21:00:23.795+01:00You made me tear up when I read this, H! You made me tear up when I read this, H! Claudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09352341442556433375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-75947976245902190952014-05-04T20:59:47.302+01:002014-05-04T20:59:47.302+01:00And much love to you, lovely T - thank you xxxAnd much love to you, lovely T - thank you xxxClaudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09352341442556433375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-75864834854992494752014-05-04T20:59:27.603+01:002014-05-04T20:59:27.603+01:00Thanks, Anon - SPD is something I'm very, very...Thanks, Anon - SPD is something I'm very, very keen to look into. We live in the UK so the referral / treatment process is different (and our kids don't have their own paediatricians.... go figure) but we are really hoping that we can find some services that will be able to do an SPD evaluation. Thanks so much for sharing your story. Claudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09352341442556433375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-76355488469073547812014-05-04T20:57:35.261+01:002014-05-04T20:57:35.261+01:00Thanks so much, Andy. Thanks so much, Andy. Claudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09352341442556433375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-71213732822798622332014-05-04T20:57:09.326+01:002014-05-04T20:57:09.326+01:00Ha!!! Yeah, that was the box I thought you meant. ...Ha!!! Yeah, that was the box I thought you meant. Although now you mention it, we probably fit in a few other boxes too... :)Claudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09352341442556433375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-7712401297512366412014-05-04T20:56:25.755+01:002014-05-04T20:56:25.755+01:00You are so right. You are so right. Claudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09352341442556433375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-37753403389615154932014-05-04T20:56:03.624+01:002014-05-04T20:56:03.624+01:00They ARE lovely, aren't they? And yes, yes, y...They ARE lovely, aren't they? And yes, yes, yes, to those two conflicting halves. Claudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09352341442556433375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-53820101221656597152014-05-04T20:55:20.722+01:002014-05-04T20:55:20.722+01:00Thanks, Mary. He *IS* a sweetheart, isn't he? ...Thanks, Mary. He *IS* a sweetheart, isn't he? Although he does still call Elvie 'that baby'. Claudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09352341442556433375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075858460867483977.post-15793326955975187332014-05-04T20:54:33.419+01:002014-05-04T20:54:33.419+01:00This is really encouraging - I very much hope we h...This is really encouraging - I very much hope we have the same experience. Claudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09352341442556433375noreply@blogger.com